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The Waking
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I cannot go.
We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.
Light takes the Tree, but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.
This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.
--Theodore Roethke
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Joy's Updates - Straight from the Horse's Mouth.
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Monday, July 07, 2003
Advice
I was reminded recently during a conversation with a male friend about that "male thing" of feeling obligated to offer advice. Some women do this as well, but it more male than female. Sometimes women need to vent or tell someone what's on their minds simply to get it out of our systems or sort of think out loud. All that's really necessary for us is to feel that we are being heard. Actually sometimes that's not as important as being able to express our thoughts without interruption. Generally we don't really want advice unless we ask for it. This should be a relief to men since it involves no responsibility on their part to be part of a conversation. They can simply learn some appropriate replies and not engage themselves emotionally to search for solutions. Asking questions that don't make them sound like a therapist could be helpful, but mostly they need to remember the topic since there might be a test. I realize it's not easy learning how to get along with women, but I think Mel Gibson has a clue.
I've scratched the surface after 20 years of marriage. Women want chocolate and conversation.
~ Mel Gibson
12:33:00 PM
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