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The Waking

I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I cannot go.

We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree, but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

--Theodore Roethke


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Sunday, May 18, 2008  

Ell from The Pomegranate Tiger tagged me for this meme, so here I go!

The rules of the game get posted at the beginning. Each player answers the questions about himself or herself. At the end of the post, the player then tags five people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read your blog.

Ten years ago:

May 1998:

I read a journal I kept then to remind me about what was going on then and read the whole thing! I was so busy and got a lot done but still had things I wanted to change and do that are still going on now. I was frustrated with teaching then and wanted time to do all the things I can do now. Well, actually it was the people I worked with that got to me. I had these two kittens Monty and Bernie that Brian called the Little Fools. Brigit actually liked them, but I had to give them away to a woman who could keep them in her horse barn where they could climb and be as destructive and active as they wanted. They demolished a vase my aunt left me and several other things I liked. I had them about eight months but they were just too hyper. I cried when I gave them to her, but she seemed really nice and wanted them. After she had them a while, I called her and found out they were doing fine and that she was glad she had them. So it wasn't like sending them to that imaginary farm but a real one with a person who was good to them.

There were men I went out with that I'd forgotten about. Well, some of them I went out with only once and others were forgettable but a couple weren't. It was good to remember when all that happened. There were also quite a few men I was in touch with online that I never met but IMed and emailed. I still thought I'd meet someone and wanted to then. I'm not sure when that changed but must have been killed by the chemo.

A close friend Ann Sensing, Aunt Sarah, Uncle Mart, Aunt Ruth, and my cousins Joyce and Paul, and my former mother-in-law were still alive then. Mother was almost 78; now she's almost 88 and still doing amazingly well.

Brian and Melissa bought their house.

This is an unexpected wake-up call that I needed. It brought back memories and made me realize how precious life is.

Five things on today's "to do" list:

1. Watch TV
2. Read
3. Write my blog
4. Check email
5. Read blogs

Might as well be honest. This is what I do. Here is my other "to do" list:

1. Laundry
2. Clean the patio furniture
3. Clean the kitchen
4. Go for a walk and do some exercises
5. Make an appointment to get my car serviced

See how that first list is more fun and why I do that one more often?

Things I'd do if I was a billionaire:

1. Move
2. Travel, travel, travel
3. Buy Brian and Melissa a new house
4. Set up trust funds for my grandchildren
5. Go to a health spa

Three bad habits:

1. Procrastination
2. More procrastination
3. Did I mention procrastination?

Five places I've lived:

1. Charlotte, Tennessee
2. Martin, Tennessee (for college)
3. Virginia Beach, Virginia
4. Charleston, South Carolina
5. Dickson, Tennessee

Five Places I've Visited:

1. New York City (World's Fair 1964)
2. Arizona (Sedona, Flagstaff, Tuba City, Grand Canyon)
3. Europe (England, France, Switzerland, Italy, Austria, Belgium, Netherlands)
4. Florida (Orlando, Cedar Key, Daytona, Cape Kennedy)
5. New England (Maine, Massachusetts, Rhode Island)

Five jobs I've had:

1. High school English teacher
2. Teacher of gifted students
3. Homebound teacher
4. GED teacher
5. High school art, US History, creative writing teacher

I sense a pattern.

Five people I'm tagging for this meme:
(oooh! Will they want to do it? Will they say "Oh No! Not another meme!"?)

Darling David on David Dust
TrannyBeth on Blind as a Bat
Charlie on Berry Blog
Chris on From A Whisper to a Scream
Brian on Brian's Live Journal

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