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The Waking

I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I cannot go.

We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree, but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

--Theodore Roethke


Joy's Updates - Straight from the Horse's Mouth.
Thursday, September 28, 2006  
TV Shows

Any discussion of Project Runway, Dancing with the Stars, or the new shows? What a surprise they kept all four finalists on PR. They've been creative all season with projects and decisions. There's an article in New York Magazine about how Jeffrey might not have done the sewing for his runway collection. He's pretty unlikeable, but I didn't think he would cheat. Kara and the shoes were a big deal last season, but this is more serious. I'm looking forward to seeing their collections.

Monique just might win on Dancing. She danced well on all the dances so far. I like a lot of them this time and love watching the pros dance together, especially Maksim and Cheryl. Maksim is great to watch even if he's just standing there.

I tried to like Smith but just can't. I really don't like any of the characters on there, and Virginia Madsen barely gets to act. Class is good which was a surprise since I haven't heard much about it. Have any of you seen it? I like Shark but expected to. What new shows do you like?

10:23:00 PM

Wednesday, September 27, 2006  

For all my life I never won door prizes. I could count on it. Yet I'd go on and write my name on the little piece of paper and drop it in the box or look on my program or under my seat to see if I had the winning number or do whatever they required. Never, ever won. It was entirely predictable after a while and was my reality. I joked about it. Then I retired and joined the local retired teachers' group and continued my losing streak. Until I became president of them and have won all three of the last door-prize opportunities I've had. Very odd. I've won a door prize at our last two meetings, the one where the nominations were announced and this latest one when I presided for the first time. Then I won one at that meeting with the state officers. What is ironic about all this is that I'm working to get rid of clutter from my house and am winning more stuff to bring into it. I haven't even created a vacuum yet for nature to abhor. Maybe door prizes are like cats. When you don't want them to come to you, they can't stay away.

11:41:00 AM

Thursday, September 21, 2006  
My Family

Mother and I went to Green Hills to the dental hygienist today. We met Brian and Brendan for lunch at the Belle Meade Buffet and then visited a while outside where there are some benches and a brick planter Brendan enjoyed walking on. We had a good time since the weather was beautiful today, sunny and cool.

Earlier I went to Wild Oats to find some lotion I like made by Zum. They were out, so I bought some of the spray. It's frankincense and myrrh, so I can smell like the Baby Jesus. When I told them about it, Mother ignored me, but I like to think she was amused and just didn't want to encourage me, the way she's always done. But I know she laughed inside. Brian asked if I had any gold. I didn't mention that gold has no fragrance since I didn't want to run rings around him logically and make him feel bad. (I am not mad.)

I thought all this was environmental, but Kathy and I have found that it's genetic since she got in trouble with her adopted family for talking and joking so much. Her "smart mouth" would have earned her praise and laughter with her biological family. We say or indicicate, "Way to go! Good one!" when someone gets in a good line. Now she's appreciated for her wit by others besides her husband. We joked around that first night she got in touch with me after we'd been talking a while. She said she never felt rejected, to which I responded that they must not have told her about the dumpster. She didn't miss a beat and said they'd left that part out. So remember about genetics, folks! Some things you just can't avoid.

11:03:00 PM

Tuesday, September 19, 2006  

I just love fall, and this cooler weather is wonderful!! It makes me feel so good and energetic. I'm outside more and enjoy it. Fall and spring are my favorite seasons. I just love the clear blue skies, crisp coolness in the air, colorful leaves, and the end of summer. Spring is like an awakening - leaves and grass are budding and becoming green, flowers are blooming, and winter is over.

I'd like to be able to go to Arizona during the summer to dry out every year. In the Flagstaff area it's 15-20 degrees cooler than it is here with about 1/4 of the humidity. Low humidity is the secret of happiness.

It's great to have my friends Paige and Carl back in Dickson. I've missed them and am so glad they're living nearby again.

What season(s) do you like? Where would you live during the different seasons if you could?

1:22:00 PM

Hello again!

Blog, what blog? I have a blog? Why yes! And here I am back from an uncharacteristic period of silence. Unfortunately, nothing particularly interesting has been going on in terms of travel or adventure. I've just been doing my regular thing except working a bit more at the vitamin store. I think what happened is that I got tired of sitting at the computer after that marathon family history experience. I have been reading your blogs and keeping up with what's going on there.

Several things have happened since we last communicated. I was wrong about Rockstar Supernova since Lukas was chosen by the band. Dilana was in the final two, and I believe she'll have a career that will be better than if she'd been with that band. I hope so.

The fall season has started on TV. I watched the much-anticipated Studio 60 last night and was so happy to hear Alan Sorkin's dialogue again. I've already set the DVR to record the series every week. Surprisingly, I like Men in Trees because I don't care for Ann Heche since I think she horned in on what was a huge milestone in Ellen DeGeneres's life. It's like she was doing it for the publicity, but who really knows what goes on with other people. Men in Trees reminds me a bit of Northern Exposure and makes me want to visit Alaska not during the winter.

Somehow I missed the finale of Project Runway last week but will watch the repeats of it this week. Fortunately I don't know who won but hope it's Michael but think it could be Jeffrey. I'll also gear up for Top Chef which begins its second season next month.

Of course, Dancing with the Stars has also returned, so I will be watch that, too. Yes, I know I watch too much TV.

1:02:00 PM

Thursday, September 07, 2006  

Our county is doing one of those heritage books that I wasn't particularly interested in, but my cousin Debby eventually guilted me into working on. I started on it late, of course, and then wanted the entry for our family to be accurate. The sentence that sums up my life is, "You know, if I'd started on this sooner, I could have done a good job." I'm an ENFP on the Myers-Briggs, and my cousin Emily, who conducts seminars on it, said the "P" stands for pressure! So true! We put it on ourselves for sure. So this means that I've been totally engrossed in this during all my free time for the last couple of weeks. Fortunately, my cousin Beverly West and my friend Paige Walk the genealogist have researched the Pentecosts and shared that information with me. I couldn't have done this in so short a time without their help. Other cousins came to the rescue and answered questions and provided stories of their own. It's been good to be in touch. Mother was a valuable source of course, and we've been on the phone comparing notes and going over things constantly. It's made us want to do more of this for ourselves and to compile our own history. I want to find out more about the Raymonds, too.

After getting involved in the Pentecost history, I didn't want to leave out the Durhams and started on that one. Mother had most of the dates I needed, and phone calls to my Aunt Pauline gave more information. I want to go farther with that, too, and know that Uncle Jim researched our Durham genealogy, so I need to get copies of what he did. It all mushrooms and becomes a mystery to unravel. I'm looking forward to seeing the heritage book when it is available next year. Most of my ancestors came from England with the exception of a couple of Cherokees and someone Scottish. Otherwise, just about all English. I believe this requires a trip there again. I didn't get to stay long enough before.

6:53:00 AM


I think it's going to be Toby. Based on the last couple of shows, I'm pretty sure they're going to choose him. They like the way he writes and engages the audience, and that EVS thing has caught on. He and Dilana gave the best performances with the band. I'm a Dilana fan and have enjoyed all her performances. This has given her exposure that I hope will help her have a strong career. I want her to win but have noticed a change lately with the fickle audience. The band probably made up their minds early on and knows who they want. Guess we'll see soon.

6:46:00 AM

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