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The Waking

I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I cannot go.

We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree, but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

--Theodore Roethke


Joy's Updates - Straight from the Horse's Mouth.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007  

Justice was served in one way. Marie and Jonathan came in 3rd. Her huge fan base carried her through this far. She's done well and really improved, but isn't as good as the other two. The Cheetah Girl was better but didn't have the votes.

Well, I'm bummed. I really wanted Mel and Maks to win, but no! Helio and Julianne did. It was time for a woman to win, and it should have been Melanie. Bummed, bummed, bummed! Last year I wanted Apolo Ono and Julianne to win, but not this time for her. It should have been M & M for sure. They've had the highest scores all season. Wrong! So wrong!

8:19:00 PM


Ell tagged me for a book meme on her blog, so here it is:


Grab the nearest book.
Open the book to page 123.
Find the fourth sentence.
Post the next three sentences along with these instructions.
Don’t search around and look for the “coolest” book you can find. Do what’s actually next to you.
State the book title and author.

She savored Sundays like some people savor a fine steak or a glass of wine.

Priscilla pulled back the yellowed sheer curtain over the window in her tiny kitchen and looked out over the parking lot in the back of her apartment building. That damn Mr. Berriman was supposed to have shoveled the snow and salted the walks yesterday afternoon, but of course he'd not taken care of it, and when Priscilla stepped outside last night for a breath of fresh air, she'd been nearly upended by the icy concrete. Now, she noticed, the walks were clean.

This is from By Blood Written by Steven Womack that I mentioned in an earlier post. I was a little worried about using this book because it's a suspense/mystery, and I was afraid I'd read something that would tip me off about the plot I didn't need to know because I haven't gotten to page 123 yet. Fortunately, it didn't. Interesting story about this book that Steve told Saturday at the book signing and also wrote in the acknowledgements of the book. One of his award-winning Harry James Denton series of mysteries had a murder at the end of the novel that was similar to an actual murder that took place in Nashville around ten years ago. A friend on the Metro Police Murder Squad called Steve to tell him he was on the list of people to interview because of that. Steve said there was a long, uncomfortable silence until he eventually told the police officer that he didn't kill those girls. The officer told him he knew he didn't and told the investigators that. Then, as writers do, Steve said he wondered what would happen if a writer committed murders as research for his novels. This is the book that was inspired by that experience.

The sentences I posted are about a retired Metro high school English teacher I can't wait to learn more about since I could possibly identify with her. One of the reviewers on Amazon wrote that she was her favorite character. His books are really entertaining and good. I recommend them highly.

6:06:00 PM

Saturday, November 24, 2007  
Good Day

Tina and I went to Bellevue for me to return library books. Then we went to Mina's and Tuesday Morning. They carry Baggallini bags at Mina's, and I love those. I've never been carried away by shoes and bags but am about these. They are so well-organized, lightweight, and attractive. Check them out at their website. I have several of them and want more. I ordered mine from but am glad to know there are places around here to get them.

We ate lunch at Hot Kabob, which has the best stews and kabobs! I have been hungry for some since I was there last. Tina and her sons like it there, too. Then we went to Franklin to a book signing for Steven Womack's latest book By Blood Written. I'm really glad we went since it was such a small group, but it was more like a conversation that way. It was good to see Steve again. Brian and I took his screenwriting class at Watkins and kept in touch.

We had a good day. What did you do?

6:02:00 PM

Tuesday, November 20, 2007  

I've been disappointed in this season of House, which has been one of my favorite shows. Hugh Laurie is brilliant, and I've watched it because of him. The writing isn't that good this season. It's formulaic and tedious. House is crude about Cuddy, obnoxious without redeeming qualities which he used to have, and silly with Wilson instead of their usual bantering and bickering. Choosing a new team from this group of doctors hasn't been written in an entertaining way. Something is definitely different, and I don't like it.

On the other hand, Criminal Minds keeps their high standards and is even better this season. They've gone deeper into the criminal mind with some creepy and gross cases and also given us more about the profilers. We know more about their lives and personalities. Adding Joe Mantegna to the cast adds so much. Mandy Patinkin's Gideon character was great, but according to something I read, Patinkin said it was getting to him, and he needed a break. The plot was left open for him to return to visit or whatever. We are left to wonder why Mantegna's Rossi returned, but they have planted seeds of curiosity. He was one of the founders of profiling much like John Douglas whose book Obsessed I recently read. Serial violent crimes are so appalling, devastating, and random that we can't begin to comprehend the kind of person who perpetrates them. This show gives some insight and shows the toll it takes on those who investigate them. I don't know how they manage it.

Maksim and Melanie are still on Dancing with the Stars and will win, I hope. It's possible that Marie might win simply because of her fan base. Votes from the Osmond family alone would be huge. Then there are the Donny and Marie fans as well as the people who know her from selling dolls on QVC. I just learned about that when the whole family was on Oprah. So that could do it. Based on dancing, it should be between Mel and Helio, with Mel winning. We'll see.

Have any of you seen The Big Bang Theory? I really enjoy it. Sheldon cracks me up.

11:44:00 PM


It's down to the final four, and I want Mel and Maks to win. I've been pulling for them from the beginning. Jennie will probably leave tonight because Marie has such a huge fan base. She's definitely an entertainer since she's been doing it all her life. All of the celebrity dancers this season have really improved. The Hough siblings are incredible dancers and teachers. Jonathan can bring out the best in his partners. But Maksim and Mel are so good together! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they take home that tacky trophy!

12:11:00 PM

Sunday, November 18, 2007  
Cough! Cough!

I've spent the last two weeks with a respiratory virus. No, not just A virus but THE virus! I've coughed so much that all my cough muscles hurt, and my eyes were red. Hope none of you have had this. It's bad. I'm finally feeling better but am not completely well yet. Don't get it. You'll hate it.

1:33:00 PM

Slogan for the Brits

I heard on NPR this morning on my favorite show "Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me!" that some people in power think what England is missing is a national motto. Ours is E Pluribus Unum which means "Out of many, one" which we need to remember and do something about, but I digress. So what suggestions do we have for England's motto? Some funny ones were suggested on NPR this morning, but what should it be?

1:22:00 PM


Hope all of you have a happy Thanksgiving with your loved ones. I've been thinking about what I'm most thankful for, and it's my family. People generally think all people are the way they are until we learn otherwise. I really did grow up in a stereotypical 50's sitcom family like Donna Reed, the Cleavers, and all of those. To me that was reality TV since it was also that way for most of my cousins. I had no idea some families were as dysfunctional as they are. From my mother's parents on down, we have been fortunate enough to have parents who love us and provide the foundation of support for the rest of our lives. It carries on through from my brother and his wife to their children who give that to their children as well. My son Brian said he always knew he was loved unconditionally and does that for Brendan. Kathy and Mark do this for their children. We are all so blessed, and I am truly thankful for this.

12:13:00 PM

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